(VISUAL EVIDENCE OF MY LIFE AT 20)
SO this submit all began out with an ASK ME ANYTHING on the gram… one individual requested me “what would you inform your 20 yr previous self”. I began considering & I had so many issues operating by means of my head. The place I used to be once I was 20? What I used to be doing? Who was I courting? Shit- was I in school but?
TO RECAP WHAT WAS UP W/ ME AT AGE 20 I hit up all of the pictures I’ve hoarded through the years & was capable of revive that actual yr….
At 20 I used to be recent out of highschool & in my first yr of school at Cal State College Lengthy Seashore learning Style Merchandising.
My largest reminiscence of 20 is that I had a VERY arduous time leaving house… & I used to be solely an hour away. I keep in mind the primary day of attending to my dorm prefer it was yesterday. I knew NO ONE going to the identical faculty as me, I used to be leaving my house, my Mother, my canine (Bitzy was a child & couldn’t come w/ me), & my routine for the previous nevertheless a few years. I had an enormous worry of the dorms- having to share a room w/ a stranger, bathe footwear, having to eat in a cafeteria… principally, the entire thing freaked me the fuck out.
I sobbed when my mother and father dropped me off. I begged them to not depart me. I threatened to cover within the trunk of their automotive… & my mother and father stated precisely what BOTH of their mother and father stated to them (I assume worry of leaving house is genetic) “give it 2 weeks, if you wish to come residence after that, you possibly can”. I don’t know if they might’ve truly let me go house, however I stayed previous the 2 weeks… & onto 4 years.
SO- due to all of THAT, 20 was a defining yr for me.
It was the yr I dyed my hair platinum blonde, spent the complete summer time earlier than school on the seashore, had a lot collagen in my face, wore a tiara rather a lot (??), drove a stick shift white VW jetta (trigger I used to be so primary), obtained my first condo, was obsessed w/ my sidekick, didn’t fill in my brows, & skilled throwing up from alcohol for the primary time. GOOD TIMES MAN.
All of this reminiscing acquired me considering… I might share all of the issues I want I might inform my 20 yr previous self ORRRRR I might ballot my viewers & see what everybody needs they might have advised their 20 yr previous self! WAY MORE FUN & wayyyyy extra numerous!
I ended up getting HUNDREDS of responses so I pared it right down to one of the best of one of the best recommendation for all you 20 yr olds on the market!! LET’S DO THIS…
- 1 1. DUMP HIM!
- 2 2. begin running a blog & cease kissing toads.
- 3 three. wash your face each night time, drink extra water, maintain your pores and skin.
- 4 four. you aren’t fats, you fool!
- 5 5. cease tanning in a tanning mattress! critically, cease
- 6 6. cease freaking out about getting a job…
- 7 7. don’t put all of your eggs in a single basket, diversify your revenue woman
- 8 eight. Be true to YOURSELF
- 9 9. don’t be in such a rush to develop up
- 10 10. get up for your self…
- 11 11. don’t fear if issues don’t work out precisely as you deliberate
- 12 12. don’t waste energy on that shitty beer
- 13 13. being cool doesn’t fucking matter, simply end your diploma.
- 14 14. cease fear concerning the smallest issues. you don’t find yourself caring.
- 15 15. make investments your cash as an alternative of spending it at Perpetually 21
- 16 16. let go of every part poisonous & transfer the fuck on.
- 17 17. fucking take heed to your mother.
- 18 18. you don’t have like dubstep!!!
- 19 19. do what scares you!!
- 20 20. you will see that love & your sense of self ultimately
1. DUMP HIM!
HA. HA. HA. This was probably the most POPULAR responses & personally, the highest of my record too. SOME OF THE VARIATIONS I GOT from my viewers… dump the fool. don’t stick with the asshole who cheated on you. overlook the man you’re on once more/off once more with. He’s NOT the one. Say no to fuck boys.
Sure, sure, sure. Who didn’t have a shitty boyfriend of their 20’s? Mine lasted method too lengthy… ought to’ve snipped that idiot years prior & though individuals informed me- in fact a 20 yr previous doesn’t pay attention. BUT LISTEN TO THIS- there are exceptions, perhaps you met your soulmate early, but when he’s a fuck boy- let him go. It’s a big waste of time & there IS somebody method higher on the market for you.
2. begin running a blog & cease kissing toads.
I imply…. increasing on the above, the kissing toads half (duh), however I favored the “begin running a blog”. You don’t neccesarily begin a blog- however discover one thing EXTRA CURRICULAR you’re keen on doing that permits you to categorical your creativity. Discover one thing aside from consuming, partying, kissing toads, coping with fuck boys, & SCHOOL that you simply love.
three. wash your face each night time, drink extra water, maintain your pores and skin.
I do know first hand when you’ve had too many drinks at a frat social gathering that you simply overlook to scrub your face at night time, otherwise you drink extra beer than water, so fear about your pores and skin NOW whereas your collagen is flourishing. TRUST.
four. you aren’t fats, you fool!
Lots of people stated one thing alongside the strains of this, i.e.: cease caring a lot about physique picture. be type to your self. be good in your personal pores and skin. you aren’t getting fats. you’ll get fatter.
SO SAD- however I’m absolutely on board with this one. I keep in mind again then ALWAYS fascinated by & discussing my weight. I took Adderall trigger I needed to be skinny & had main physique picture points. Wanting again now, I undoubtedly had physique dysmporhia & need to SLAP myself. I used to be 10 kilos lighter than I’m now & seemed nice!!! I look nice now too… however to assume again then I used to be heavy makes me so unhappy for my 20 yr previous self.
5. cease tanning in a tanning mattress! critically, cease
increase your hand in the event you had a coronary heart formed tan line close to your nether areas *HAND RAISED*. I don’t even know if individuals nonetheless use tanning beds- BUT IF SO, STOP NOW. Get a tanning mousse & do it your self. Get monetary savings, & your pores and skin PLEASE.
6. cease freaking out about getting a job…
…journey now whereas your mother and father can pay for it! AMEN & I AGREE. I all the time needed to work to make extra cash to spend on garments. Cease cease cease, even when you aren’t capable of journey, take pleasure in being in school whereas your mother and father nonetheless help you. That is the ONLY time in your life shifting ahead you don’t have to fret *as a lot* about actual monetary shit.
7. don’t put all of your eggs in a single basket, diversify your revenue woman
however in case you do have to work throughout this time or aren’t going to school- attempt a number of new issues to assist slender down what you’re captivated with. Don’t get caught in a job you hate. Begin an Etsy story, get artistic, & HAVE FUN WITH IT when you are nonetheless younger. PLEASE.
eight. Be true to YOURSELF
“cease worrying about who’s watching you, do you!” YES.
“don’t fear about making an attempt to please others, be real to your self” YES.
“cease making selections based mostly off of others opinions, & do what makes you happiest” YES.
“life is just too brief to provide a fuck what others assume” YES.
“personal your uniqueness. you’re a complete babe due to it. your likes & dislikes don’t should be the identical as others. be distinctive, it’s a great factor. get to know your self & LOVE it” YES!!!
9. don’t be in such a rush to develop up
ENJOY THIS TIME!! Time flies so reside your life & don’t care what anybody thinks. Don’t be unhappy about silly shit & simply reside within the second.
The transition at 20 is a bizarre one & you naturally begin to stress about all of life’s massive selections. JUST STOP proper now. Take in this second, as a result of you may be in your thirties earlier than you realize it & you may be in the identical place whether or not you probably did or didn’t rush to develop up in your 20’s.
10. get up for your self…
…& what you consider in.
Twenty is the time to determine who you’re & what you stand for. Use your voice & be extra of a bitch about what you consider in, if wanted.
11. don’t fear if issues don’t work out precisely as you deliberate
as a result of there’s something higher on the market for you! Life has a humorous approach of working itself out, so if one thing occurs, belief the god rattling universe.
12. don’t waste energy on that shitty beer
HAHAHA amen, I want somebody informed me this once I was enjoying Edward 40 arms each weekend.
13. being cool doesn’t fucking matter, simply end your diploma.
Everybody has totally different views on school. I’m within the center. I received a bachelors diploma in Style Merchandising & a minor in textile improvement. My dream was to work within the work of trend merchandising.
Does what I discovered in class assist me at present? YES. I discovered the best way to use photoshop & illustrator. Common schooling did nothing for me, BUT… all in all, I feel these 4 years are crucial in relation to studying actual life shit. I wouldn’t be the place I’m in the present day if I didn’t end my diploma.
14. cease fear concerning the smallest issues. you don’t find yourself caring.
A couple of variations from my viewers included:
“I promise, this too shall move.”
“Right now is a thanks, subsequent.”
“It gained’t matter in a number of years. don’t fear a lot”
I couldn’t stress this one ENOUGH. If you end up 20, all the things is the top of the world. It isn’t. I might lose my pockets & sob like I might by no means recuperate from it- however in 2 years you’ll not keep in mind dropping the pockets so cease being so dramatic concerning the small shit.
15. make investments your cash as an alternative of spending it at Perpetually 21
RIP to all of my cash I spent a F21 once I was 20. Obtain the Acorn app in your telephone to simply make investments your cash (it’s free for school college students & I WISH I had this once I was 20!!!).
16. let go of every part poisonous & transfer the fuck on.
it’s okay to outgrow & let go of individuals of individuals or issues in the event that they/it not brings you happiness & STOP HOLDING ONTO GRUDGES. I really feel like this can be a massive one as a result of at 20 you’re in between two lives- your previous life as a toddler & your new life as an “grownup”. It’s exhausting to find out what serves you anymore, but when there’s something or somebody holding you again out of your “previous life” it’s OKAY to let that go & transfer on. Grudges & toxicity are dangerous on your well being.
17. fucking take heed to your mother.
I mean- do I even should say this one? I really feel like once I was 20 I used to be extra rebellious with my Mother & she simply “didn’t get it”. NEWSFLASH- she will get it greater than you realize. Take heed to the lady. She is your greatest instructor.
18. you don’t have like dubstep!!!
Whoever submitted this one, I really like you & I hate dubstep. HAHA.
I attempted in school to get into the world of dubsteb as a result of it was the large factor at frat events, however all the time ended the night time on the membership that performed old skool rap music. Somethings by no means change, & dubstep nonetheless sucks.
19. do what scares you!!
take the alternatives that scare you since you like who you grow to be due to them!! No matter it’s you assume you couldn’t do- it’s attainable so go for it.
I used to be frightened of EVERYTHING at age 20. Afraid of going to school. Frightened of journey. Frightened of being away from my Mother. Simply so scared, however I persevered & if I might inform you something, simply fucking do it. It should make you a greater, stronger, extra properly rounded individual.
20. you will see that love & your sense of self ultimately
I LOVE THIS ONE. I used to be very rushed in my 20’s so please, in case you are someplace round 20… be affected person with your self & simply let life occur. Nothing will fall into place now anyhow, regardless of how a lot you need it. Embrace the method.